Knowing how to pose will help you look your best in photos and feel your best in life. There’s nothing more crushing than leaving the home, feeling amazing, only to have your photo taken when you’re out and thinking you must have been crazy thinking you looked good because the photo is horrible!
But it’s most likely just because you don’t know how to pose and bring the best out of your features.
Knowing how to pose means knowing how to position your body, position your head and using specific facial expressions, as well as knowing what not to do in posing, what you should do and how to pose in group photos so you don’t stand out as that ‘ugly friend’ (again, you’re not ugly, it’s just your lack of skills in posing).
This video is FILLED with amazing techniques and I also analyse professional models and their poses to help you understand how to pose and how to look your best.
I hope you enjoyed this video!
Send your photos through if you would like to have me critique your poses. Email address is at the end of the video.
Life comes at you so fast sometimes it’s hard to contemplate the future. “If you don’t plan to succeed, you plan to fail.” You can’t afford to just drift through life. Your future self may someday look back at how you lived today and wonder “what the heck were you thinking?” Live intentionally to have a better life today and tomorrow. Here are six things that your future self wants you to starting doing today.
Take More Chances
Stability is comfortable. Risk-taking is what makes you grow and advance. One German study found that people who enjoyed taking risks were more content in life. It’s hard to know what comes first, satisfaction with life or risk-taking. It’s like asking, “which came first – the chicken or the egg?” If you take risks today, you won’t look back in 10 years and ask yourself “what if?”
Stop living to be accepted by others. Do things that you want to do because you find it exciting. Take a chance. Even if you fail, you’ll learn from it. You’ll be in the minority, because most people don’t take risks. You’ll stand out in the crowd as you forge your path.
Taking a risk will make you more successful. Chances are, if you’re trying to better yourself, it’s because you’re not happy with your circumstances. Change is risky. But the only way to escape your current situation is to make change.
Risk-taking isn’t just jumping off into the deep end with any and every opportunity. You have to look at the right options. Be a calculated risk-taker. Maximize your chances by taking more risks than not but weigh your choices carefully while you’re taking risks.
Be Who You Want to Be
What defines you? Matt Damon said, “It’s just better to be yourself than to try to be some version of what you think the other person wants.” Being yourself is easier said than done. How do you find your true self? As adults, we’re often conditioned to be a certain way. There are times when you do need to act responsibly when you don’t really want to. Finding your true self is more about authenticity and individuality. Here are some tips to help you find the person you want to be.
Make a list of your personality traits, both good and bad. Which ones do you want to be known for?
What are your values? Your convictions define how you act in different situations. Are you happy with your values? If not, make some changes.
Stop comparing yourself to others. There’s always going to be someone richer, prettier or more successful than you. Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” When you fall into the comparison trap, you lose self-confidence and begin to adopt a persona that isn’t the real you. Someone else’s outside can never be compared to your inside.
Focus on growth. As you become the person you want to be, your parents (or others who knew the old you) may call you out for past mistakes. It can be discouraging to remember where you once were. Bite your tongue and remember that you are trying to be a better person. It’s not where you were, but where you’re going.
Don’t think that your true self is set in stone. Your values, philosophies and personality may change over time. As you become more aware of yourself and others, you may find that you change your political orientation or religious views. You may even find yourself having conflicting points of view as you reflect on society, your friends and family and your own needs.
Accept Who You Are
While you’re trying to figure out who you are, recognize that you are who you are today. Change does not always come easy. It takes time to reshape your personality and values. The persona you try out this year may not be who you are next year. Admit your mistakes and apologize, if necessary. Don’t agonize over the past.
When you do feel remorseful, remind yourself that you made the best decision with the information at the time. Maybe it wasn’t the right choice, but you can’t change what happened. You can only go forward. Make the changes you want to make, but don’t forget to love yourself in the meantime
Stop Worrying About Failing
When you were young, you were taught that failing is bad. Don’t fall. Don’t lose the game. Don’t get a bad grade. Being scared of failing is ingrained into your very fiber. We don’t want to disappoint our parents, our teachers and our leaders. What we’re never taught is “what is the worst that can happen if you fail?”
Thomas Edison had over 1,000 attempts in inventing the light bulb. Winston Churchill failed to pass the entrance exam to the Royal Military Academy at Sandhurst, not just once, but twice. Charles Darwin’s father considered him a very ordinary young man who didn’t have a whit of intellect. These are men who changed history. Clearly, failure didn’t define them.
Your future self wants you to know that it’s okay to fail. Failure isn’t the end of the world. It’s how you deal with failure that defines your true self. You may not get it right the first time. Bet you learn more when you get it wrong, because you have to go back and figure out what went wrong. Pick yourself up. Learn from your mistake. Move forward.
Live Life Fully
Gary Vaynerchuk said, “I’m the happiest because I’m doing exactly what I want to do.” Don’t wait until you get to the end of your life and discover you haven’t followed your dreams. Ask yourself, “what do I need to do to be happy and have meaning?” Maybe you don’t have all the money in the world, but you can choose to do things that make you happy.
Volunteer for organizations that you support. Be kind to your neighbors. Invest in time with those you love. Instead of binging on Netflix, go outside and have a water fight. Get off social media and be social in your community. Take up a sport that interests you. Get enough sleep. See the world in a positive way. You may not be able to change the world, but you can “be the good” in your community by changing one person.
One of the top regrets of the dying is “I wish I had let myself be happier.” Gary Vee said, “The truth is that finding happiness in what you do every day is so imperative.” Happiness isn’t the result of living, it’s a choice that makes it easier to live. Happiness doesn’t find you. You choose happiness. Need ideas on living happy? Researchers have studied happiness and found proven ways to increase your happy.
Smile like you mean it.
A Michigan State University study found that customer service workers who faked a smile had worse moods that others who genuinely smiled due to positive emotions. One more reason to be authentic and be true to yourself instead of putting on airs.
Take an afternoon nap.
A siesta after lunch may sound very continental and luxurious, but many European countries shut down in the afternoon to allow workers to take a long lunch break. One study found that naps tend to desensitize people to negative emotions and help them respond to positive feelings. Sleep has many emotional benefits.
Spend time with family and friends.
Another regret of the dying is not spending time with loved ones. Social connections make you happy. Don’t get to the end of your life and have no one to share it with. Strengthening your relations is much more beneficial than a salary increase in terms of happiness. It’s been shown that helping and caring for others can help you live to an older age.
Go to the beach.
A UK study found that sea + sun = happiness. A natural environment makes people happier than the city. Get out in nature on the weekend. Coastal and marine locations raised happiness levels. If you can’t get to the beach, go to the mountains or the forests. Enjoy a farm. Go for a drive. You’ll be happier.
Make Small Changes
If you’re dissatisfied with your life today, it’s not going to get better on its own. You have to make changes to get to where you want to be. Making sweeping changes is difficult, so make small steps. Change one thing this month. Once it becomes a habit, make another change. You can be who you want to be. But it’s up to you.
All right my question is how do you go about learning how to delegate I’ve gotten to the point now of my business that I’m meeting the health and high end s is doing everything myself and I end up it’s paying people basically just to watch me do the work that I want them to do what do you do I’m a driller today and what do you want them to do like run open houses or cold-call or what are they supposed to be doing that you’re doing I mean really a little bit of everything not really main thing that I do is advertising and branding for myself so for them it’s more of just taking care of Li locking down leads you know getting things scheduled on the calendar so you’re the top of the funnel and you want them to see it through underneath you yes sir got it and who have you been hiring I mean honestly I think it’s might be – you have been going for people that I doesn’t know which I’m not again you know listen I’ll be honest with you got its cup Kyle it’s honestly I’m a big fan of that believe it or not especially in the early days that’s your mo that’s my mo Jerry’s crew and it’s like all his buddies yeah give the same opportunity you know that’s been given to me come on my boy here’s the one thing though I didn’t hire a single one of my college friends like go higher friends person but you but you would like Michael white like you were you know your involvement who but it’s I think at this stage of my life I certainly can when I was in my college early to mid-20s and I was building something yeah it was hard for me as a leader to demand a level of excellence that I wanted without it kind of hurting the relations on and so I just stayed over now I would probably not have as big of an issue but let me tell you what the biggest thing you need to figure out is you know
whether it’s your friends or people like you you have to hire people that are obsessed with logistics and are type-a personalities you have to hire people that love the shit that you and I hate like the biggest joke like you need to find somebody who just loves Excel and loves being in their calendar and freaks out when you’re a minute late and like you need cross your T’s and dot your i’s I’m sitting with Adam and asking him about details of mission you right now with you because I don’t do that you need to hire people that do do that because you’re just hiring homies or people that look the part of you but that’s not what you need if you’re the quarterback you need to hire offensive linemen they look different okay yeah I mean the other thing I would say is you know the start of my career is probably very much the way that you were I was the person who needed to do everything myself because I believe that can do it better than anybody else on my team then I spent three years at Bain which is arguably the top kind of culture in in the world for a corporate company and what I saw there was that they spent an insane amount of time training people below them to do the job that they’re doing today so they can focus on the next higher level issue and so my biggest piece of advice to you is you should look at how you’re spending your time and it might feel really strange and really awkward but you should actually delegate let’s say in the next two weeks Oh percent oh
maybe all the time oh it’s two weeks sure teaching the people that you are delegating to to do all of your exact responsibilities literally to the point where they can do it as well if not better than you can and then it will free up your time because at the end of a delegation is a matter of trust and right now you’re not trusting these people and that’s because you have an investing in them or because they’re looser just about how do you go about showing someone the vision you know for me it’s easy to see because it’s my vision well it’s about you don’t you get rid of people that don’t buy into your vision if these are your boys and they don’t see your vision that should be real fast okay like they’re either bought its binary brother either they’re bought in that you’re gonna be the biggest fucking real estate mogul in fucking Texas America the world the universe or they don’t and if they’re just there to collect the paycheck and it’s kind of easy because you don’t make them work hard you’ve got a problem you need to cut that cancer out okay I mean I mean that’s it man right like what are you like what do you mean like I don’t try to convince anybody about my vision I’ll give you my fucking vision one time and if you’re not bought in fuck you no no yeah yeah yeah I mean I appreciate that I really do yeah I mean let me tell you another thing let me tell you know there’s book but it’s not how you that’s how you look at it but that’s not how you’re acting on it okay you notice if you’ve been watching my content you notice how I say and never try to sell anybody like I’ll try to sell you one time but if you’re not in you’re out like it’s fine by the way I have hundreds of employees at vaynermedia that are not fully bought in you need them it’s fine but I don’t dwell on it I’m not emotional about it like it doesn’t mean anything to me I’m on my mission and so you need to just if if they’re literally your homies or acquaintances they the reason I build companies with friends and family is because they are automatically bought in usually if they’re not man they’re just taking
advantage of you slash you need to check your ego at the door you’re right it’s about trust I love the fact that I know every single person here either is doing a job that I can’t do but if they’re doing my job right like so the PR team the new business team andis job those are shitty jobs because those are things that I could do but I know if they’re doing it as an my 10 or a to my 10 I can’t do everything and I’ll tell you the greatest feeling in the world is when you have a team around you that takes all of those responsibilities off your plate and allows you to focus on the thing that you can do exceptionally well that they can’t but right now you’re trying to do too much and you’re not surrounded by the right people I want it I mean that’s what I’ve been thinking or or or let’s do some basic math let’s say there’s four things you do and you think you do them better than anybody and let’s award you 10 full points right you’re getting 40 points problem is there’s 87 things that need to be done do this math if everybody else is doing a 2 or 3 but you’re getting all 87 things done the net score is greater people are crippled by perfection or doing everything right I think the thing that I’ve always done really well is you just keep moving forward you just keep moving forward nothing’s ever gonna be perfect so it’s one of two things either your homie suck shit or you suck shit and you like the ego boost that you’re better at it then your average below average friends which means you’ll never be that big you’ve got to figure out which one it is and it’s probably a little bit of both you know what I mean it always is a little bit about great for sure that’s it man I would definitely agree so this increased my action and bring more people involved and just let it happen and figure out are you holding it back because it makes you feel good that you’re a better salesperson the amount of people I watch that build one in two million dollar businesses because they get off on being the best at all these little things it happens every day and I’m always like okay that player is gonna be an average player because they don’t realize notice how I always talk about sucking shit and everything and I suck at this and there’s a like you have to take pride in your shortcomings
because then you start acknowledging them and then you know everybody’s fronting that they’re so awesome and everything I suck in almost everything yet I’m winning because I surround myself with people that know what they’re doing in that world I can’t edit videos like these characters well I think that’s a problem I have is that I see what I say I personally feel like I see the potential and the people that I bring on and I just can’t get them to actually see it or at least tap into it on themselves yeah but if you see it and they’re not bringing it to fruition in a very short period of time then those aren’t the right people that are business yeah you might also suck at motivating people bro okay like like that’s a real part they quit like me like we have to we have to understand these variables this is for everybody right GOG have no idea like you could literally be that they’re they’re milking you and they don’t want to do anything and you’re the homie that’s kind of dragging everybody up that could be the case but I would also say maybe your management style leadership style is making them go in reverse because maybe when you’re when you should be using honey you’re using vinegar and when you should be using vinegar you’re using honey it could be an indication on you okay and I don’t know right know that I know that like I want to work with people I don’t want people to work for me okay and and that’s that’s a big thing for me personally and I think that at the same time to a fault with that because I don’t want to be someone’s boss I want to you know I just want to be does that make sense hell yeah does it work well hell it big time yeah I mean without knowing it dude
everybody wants a boss if they go work somewhere yeah if you go work somewhere you’re looking for a leader yeah say you need to step into that role and not trying to be every person’s friend and in fact there’s also a big difference between a boss and a leader people are looking for a leader that’s what they need you to be not the boss they want to be how old are you guys really do do good man you’re a baby you’re like like you’re a real fucking baby right so like you got plenty of time to mold into this the fact that you’re aware about this the fact that you’re watching this the fact that we’re talking about this and you got time man I wouldn’t I wouldn’t cripple yourself you were literally a child like like you’re 22 years old you got a lot of time listen at 22 I was not able to give critical feedback right to my employees I wasn’t good at it you’re hearing that you’re 22 change the equation me I mean I was 24 when I started pencils of promise it was my friends that were around me of helping me throw these parties raise money and I could never order them around and you know I just didn’t have the call it self confidence as a you know leader of the organization I was always grateful all those things but at the end of the day it becomes very clear where the talent rises and the Queen really does rise to the top once you set a clear vision and then you start holding people
accountable to real results oh and you might not wish your luck I mean Adam had snobby friends like Brad H you know who could never take feedback so like we got you got to be careful I think you surround yourself with Brad I love you Kyle good luck be patient here’s what I would say let me give you one real tangible thing go have your first ever negative conversation with one of your employees just go taste it just go in there go sit down Rick and be like Rick listen to me we’ve been friends since Little League in fourth grade I love you you’re the best you saved me from drowning in the river in ninth grade but here’s the problem you suck so either you get your shit together I have to fire you fireman hey I really appreciate you taking the call and Kyle don’t don’t jump off real quick you’ve got a promise to me that you’re gonna go have that conversation no I literally am I gotta meet with a couple of my guys tonight so we’re gonna have to talk like really bleep now when you set a couple new guys if you’re gonna have that conversation make sure you have a one-on-one don’t start lumping people in okay yeah because when you start lumping somebody’s few feelings get hurt it can get confusing let me tell you what losing players do if they’re both sitting there I’d be like it’s Adam who screwed up he’s just bringing me here to make it more palpable like you’ve got it you’ve got to do that one-on-one okay and you listen learn you really have to go there and and start the conversation by framing it up as I want to talk to you to get feedback and write that in there that’s gonna set the tone this isn’t like a friendly normal conversation this is about getting that feedback having that tough conversation that you need and just say listen I love you but yeah make this a buck conversation be like listen we’re homies for life but you know you’re lazy as fuck asshole no yeah
honestly everything you’re telling me I feel like I already know I just haven’t had this I know I know you know you don’t have the balls to do it yet because most people don’t and the reason I’m not letting you get off the phone is usually people need this kind of pep talk and I’m worried that I haven’t put enough energy into you and the in the next four hours it’s gonna go away and then you’re gonna shit the bed so the reason I’m keeping you on the phone is I’m trying to give you the audacity to actually get this done because the first time you do it member I was scared you were to kiss a girl oh yeah remember how after you did it you weren’t scared anymore yeah mediately you need to go have this negative you need to have go you need to go have this negative conversation it will change the course of your career I appreciate I mean I’m actually opening up to Austin market in about a week so I gotta I got to do this now and that’s why I gave you I asked for the question and I’ve literally been sitting in Walmart just hoping that you guys would call me so Andy Cage saved your day and Walmart I love it love you bro got it